Putting Marriage First. Be a Blessing Rather Than a Burden – Candlewood Church

Is your spouse your first priority or your last? Putting your marriage first is one of the best things you can do! 


“God said, ‘It’s not good for the man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion” (Gen 2:18). 


The first marriage in all of humanity was brought together for two reasons

    1. to help one another 
    2. to bring glory to God 


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Why is Your Relationship with Your Spouse so Important? 

Your relationship with your spouse is extremely important because a family is only as strong as the marriage inside it. God’s Word reminds us how we should be thinking about our spouse.


“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things” (Phil. 4:8-9).


No marriage is perfect. Is your spouse

  • Highly emotional?
  • Self-righteous and smug?
  • Unresponsive? 
  • Lazy? 
  • A procrastinator? 
  • Power hungry? 
  • Disrespectful? 


Choose not to make a list and dwell on your spouses shortcomings, rather make a list and dwell on encouraging truths. 


How about making a list and focusing on why you love them. Is your spouse

  • Loyal? 
  • A high achiever? 
  • Motivated by a genuine concern for my well being? 
  • Committed? 
  • Dependable? 
  • Supportive? 
  • Patient? 
  • Loving? 


Your spouse is your parenting partner. Make a difference for the kingdom of God today by loving your spouse. Take your thoughts captive and abide in Philippians 4:8-9. 



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Are You a Burden or a Blessing? 


Make it your goal to make your spouse’s life easier when you are a part of it, not more difficult. How can you be a help to them? You shouldn’t be their burden-maker, you should be a bearer of blessings. 


5 Ways to Be a Blessing and Helper in Your Marriage


God created us to bless and help our spouse. Here are five easy ways to get started.

    1. Always be a person of your word, someone they can always count on and trust.
    2. Do not half listen when they are talking then ask them to repeat the question. Really focus and actively listen by looking them in the eyes.
    3. Find ways to help. Try asking these two powerful questions daily: “What can I do to help you today?” and “How can I pray for you today?”
    4. Fill your mouth with words of inspiration and encouragement instead of negativity and complaints.
    5. When your spouse wants to relax and have fun, make it your goal to be the one who they think of first. 


Putting your spouse first is a powerful marriage-booster. There’s no greater gift you can give your kids than to love and respect your spouse unconditionally. 


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Connect With Candlewood Church


If you have questions about putting your marriage first or are in need of prayer for your marriage, we are interested in connecting with you. Please contact Candlewood Church in Omaha, NE at 402.991.5152 or info@candlewoodchurch.org

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